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My bf and I have been together for 4 years. He claims that we alway argue but I wouldnt consider it arguing. What happens is..He says mean things to me and he is always grumpy. I get upset and naturally defend myself and get an attitude with him because of it- I have tried to explain my case and make him realize that arguing is when two people cant agree ..not when someone is badgering the other one and they are just getting ticked because of it. Also, when I call him on the phone and he answers or I leave a message and he calls back…he always starts the conversation with WHAT DO YOU NEED?..I showed up at his house that he just purchased the other day because HELLO I’m his girlfriend. HE asked me why I always just POP IN? and dont call ahead first. I didnt think 4 yrs together required a phone call for an appt. He is not cheating on me..I know this because he just moved from next door because he finally got a house- will giving him space open his eyes??
August 11th, 2011 at 1:37 am
give him a bj
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August 11th, 2011 at 5:35 am
dont worry, he’s probably just on drugs.
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August 11th, 2011 at 10:37 am
He doesn’t appreciate you. Give yourself some space.
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August 11th, 2011 at 1:36 pm
First it does not matter how long you have been together you do not live together therefore it is only right that you call before you appear at his front door. It is common courtesy.
I think that your relationship is coming to an end and you should prepear for it to end. the signs are not good for a lasting relationship.
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August 11th, 2011 at 5:37 pm
Dumb him
then
Start a roumer about him like putting peanut buter on his penis to let his dog lick it for him
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August 11th, 2011 at 9:36 pm
I Was With My Girl For 2 1/2 Years And The First Year Everything Was Good We Did Everything Together, But Afterwards I Just Didnt Feel Love Anymore So I Would Tell You This Because I Know Just Breakup With Him Now If There Is No More Love
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August 12th, 2011 at 2:36 am
it seems like he doesn’t want u to be his gf any more. sorry. but it is better u start little by little learn how to live without him. there is nothing u can do anymore
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August 12th, 2011 at 6:36 am
if he’s doing stuff like that then something is going on
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August 12th, 2011 at 9:36 am
Well, if he’s not cheating then something else is going on. He obviously needs privacy for some reason, but I would be wondering if he was going to break up with me soon. After 4 yrs, you should be able to pop over when you fancy it. I would be hurt not being able to. It’s not you, honey. He’s the one acting weird. Maybe space will help, if its a temporary thing.
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August 12th, 2011 at 12:36 pm
i think giving him space would help. it might b just what he needs 2 realize he has sumthin great going 4 him wit u. 4 years is a long time 2 b wit someone, so u obviously really love eachother. good luck wit everything!
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August 12th, 2011 at 3:36 pm
My advice, he want to break the relationship. I think he just need the time to realize what he really want before tell you something . Give him all the space he needs. Maybe he discover what he really feels for you. If you see no changes, dump him. Before he does. Don’t loose your time
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August 12th, 2011 at 7:36 pm
Certainly he has lost interest in you. 4 years is long enough for a man to losse interest in anything. If he cant respect you and your behaviour whats the point in continuing the relation. I think you have to think about it twice.
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August 12th, 2011 at 11:37 pm
Girl, what is with you? Open your eyes! He doesn’t really want to be with you. He is just in it for the security. Aren’t you? Sounds to me like you don’t really want to be with GRUMPY either. Check your priorities, girlfriend.
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August 13th, 2011 at 2:37 am
Only give him space if that’s what you want. No one can give you a definite answer. You guys need to sit down and have a serious talk. It doesn’t sound like he’s treating you the way you deserve to be treated. You and him have been together for a long time and no you don’t need a phone call ahead of time. Figure out your feelings toward each other and what you want to do with your lives as a couple. You need to find out if what you want is what he wants. Common goals in life is very important especially if you plan to get married. Both of you need to change in some ways. Start now. Good luck.
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August 13th, 2011 at 5:36 am
yes, give him space …let him fly if it was meant to be he will come back….first of all he should be asking you to marry him and move you into his new house…hmmmm..this sounds funny…are you sure he has no eyes for someone else, not even at work?..I’ll keep an eye on him without him knowing..so you can decide and see for yourself what really is going on.He sounds like a rat to me..(sorry).
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August 13th, 2011 at 8:36 am
He doesn’t want to be your boyfriend anymore, all the signs are there. If he wants you to call before you come over? He either is worried that you might catch him with another, or he doesnt want to see you that much anymore. After being together that long and you are being treated like that, it’s over! It is supposed to get better when you are in love not worse! He doesnt care for you in the right way!when two are in love, they want to be together all the time and cant stand to be apart! Let em go!
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August 13th, 2011 at 12:36 pm
Hey there, not a good message to hear for a holiday weekend, but my guess is that this relationship is long overdue to end. And you should end it. He doesn’t show you the respect you deserve, he doesn’t show you the affection you’ve earned, and he doesn’t deserve the person you know you are to be when he doesn’t treat you like crap. Take your power and integrity back and say good bye! Best of luck to you!
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August 13th, 2011 at 2:35 pm
Yeah i guess giving him space will really do. Perhaps you’re being too strict on him. I hate to tell this but i guess he is sick of you- who is always there around him. Though definitely you are his girlfriend. It’s a natural thing to do..but still, try loosening him up. Ayt?
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August 13th, 2011 at 5:36 pm
May be he is cheating on you.you say that he was just your next door neighbour b4 moving but were you always together. you never know what he was doing when outside. He might be avoiding you and i say this, he might be having another affair that is why he would like you to call him b4 visiting to avoid getting him with her. Be cautious about this behaviour. talk to him and ask why he does this. if he is no longer interested, you can move on. who said he is the only man who can make a boyfriend in this world!
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August 13th, 2011 at 8:36 pm
Yes, give him his space and don’t just sit home and sulk. It might just be time to move on.
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August 13th, 2011 at 11:36 pm
From what you say, the relationship has gone south and you need to move on. Let him go and get back to happy.
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August 14th, 2011 at 2:36 am
I hope for you’re sake that you can look past the crap-ass answers other people are giving you for starters. 4 years is a long time, so if the relationship ends, its gonna suck, no doubt there. And dont think that because you’ve been together that long that you have to stay together or it was a waste of 4 years, because life is a learning experience and those 4 years will only make the next 60 easier. But to my point…I’ve been with my now fiance for 5 years, and we’ve had similar problems and situations. It just seems to be natural for those kind of things to occur. But I would HIGHLY recommend one book to you for BOTH of you to read. Its called “personality plus”. Its a $10 book that made a ton of difference in my relationship. Simply put, its helps you figure out your own personality, and you’re “spouse’s”,and then give advice for dealing with the positives and negatives of that personality type. If you’re cheap like me you could find it in a barnes and nobles and sit and read it there. But hopefully you two can get things worked out by whatever means it takes, I dont see your situation as a “its all over give up”, i see it more as a “try a different approach and you’ll be fine”. Hope this helps.
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