Why do people turn out the way they do?
I know that’s a cryptic question, but, some questions have too many stipulations to get out in a mere sentence.
Without thinking of the actions one undertakes because of who or how they are, what makes a person tick? Some people, with parents, all of similar personality and morality, have children who turn out completely different. My parents were good to my siblings and I, yet, we all turned out differently.
One is very driven in life. One’s very aggressive in life. I am very…passive at everything I do.
I want to get a handle on why I am the way I am. I know that one thing must be done, but I almost uncontrollably do another. I know that, instead of doing one thing, and my conscience tells me that same thing. Even my desire wants that, yet, without an ability to control it, I reject it, and even though I feel worse about the situation (Most situations, not just one in particular, so a singular phobia seems to be impractical.) I repeatedly sabotage myself in everything I do. If I like doing something, I lose interest fast. Things I enjoy, don’t seem fun anymore, or for as long. Things I used to do, because I knew I had to, is like pulling teeth. I know I need to do it. I want to do it. But something completely petrifies that desire and will before it happens.
I have a strong morality, so there are a lot of things that no matter what, I just won’t do. But when it comes to things, that don’t seem absolutely 100% required, there is the chance that…no matter what…it always seems to fail. I feel like I’ve lost control of my mind, and I want nothing more then to have control of my mind again.
Can anyone understand this? Perhaps, can anyone with a bit of time give me some understanding of the way my mind works? I must conquer this, or I’m going to go nowhere for the rest of my life. I really can’t imagine dealing with that.
Something has to be done, unfortunately for me, I do not know what.
Perhaps I overanalyse and take the what ifs far more than I should, but when it comes to living, I’ve found it almost impossible to find what a healthy medium between how heavilly you should look at the what ifs, and when you should stop/ignore them. This is in some cases anyway. I’ve lived this way for as long as I’ve drawn breath, so I don’t really know where moderation in this comes into play. Moderation for anything really. When it becomes overanalyzation or overdoing it with the what ifs.

October 10th, 2011 at 7:36 pm
The choices you make IS the person you are.
I’m sorry my answer wasn’t longer, and I know it seems more complicated, but that may be why you couldn’t figure it out…you accidentally overlooked it.
My Mom likes to phrase it this way…”If you always do what you’ve always done then you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten”.
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October 11th, 2011 at 4:36 am
I’ve always wondered the same thing. You would think that it would be a person’s experiences in life that determine who they are. But, i think you are born the way you are meant to be. Check out this website. http://paulsadowski.com/Numbers.asp It has you type in your name, and it will give you an overview of who you are as a person. Let me know if you see any similarities. It’s kinda scary how accurate it can be.
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October 11th, 2011 at 12:37 pm
It depends on the environment you were raised in. How your parents raised you. All the things you were exposed to as you were little and how your were treated by others. All these things are factors in a child’s development as they’re young. A child could be innocent and well-behaved but as they age into teen-age years they could change completely. Due to friends, pressure, drugs, alcohol etc. Certain changes will change certain people. But then again, we change on a daily basis; Natural change.
I don’t really understand, but it seems like you get bored easily. I think you’re confused between your wants and desires. What’s important and what’s not. I guess you just gotta sort things out in your mind.
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October 11th, 2011 at 8:36 pm
I’m no expert here but will share my thoughts.
We are all unique individuals each with our own traits. Some of the terms to describe what makes up humans is body, soul, mind, spirit, will. The fascinating part is all these individual parts work together to make up our life. Any one part can dominate the others if it needs attention. For instance, if your hungry it takes priority over everything else.
So, to your case. I would say you tend to analyze things. Some say our weaknesses are just our strengths in overdrive. The other side of the coin is if we analyze too much we can paint ourself in a corner.
Probably the greatest challenge in life is learning to like ourselves, and accept our imperfections.
You may be a little depressed. I would guess your issue is mostly a spiritual one. Thats why you are losing interest, your will is simply doing what your spirit wants. You are pondering the meaning of life, thats normal for anyone with intelligence.
My advice would be to keep things positive. Start thinking about all the things you are thankful for. Also, a great remedy is to take the focus off yourself and onto others. In other words, do something for others that have a need.
Then also, learn to just force yourself to do the things you have to do without worrying how you feel about it. Sometimes we can just work ourselves through a problem with time.
For me myself, I get my counseling at church. Its free and you get lots of good advice on the meaning of life, and the dilemnas we face.
Good luck to you and just know your not alone, everyone sooner or later has to look ourselves in the mirror and talk things over.
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