should i send this to my boyfirend, ReAlLy LoNg!!?
okay me and my boyfriend(Joe) are both sophmores, live about 4 hours apart, dating about 10 months, we trust eachother, so i know hes not cheating on me but, should i send this letter/email to him, **im not controlling at ALL!! k? just so you all understand that**:
” Okay Sweetie, i want you to understand im not yelling at you, but youve alwasy said, no matter what you ant to know how im feeling, so here you go.
i just dont understand, ive told you i dont like when you just stop texting me, and yet you dont seem to do anything about it. How would you feel if I did that to you? The i reason i got so mad the other night was beacause I didnt know where you were, i thought you were with your mom or something. i wouldnt have been mad if you would have told you were going to Adams.It is really such a big thing for me to ask you to do?? Joe, Ive tried telling you i dont like not knowing where you are, and you dont seem to want to change. I was more then willing to change for you and stop saying “nothing” all the time and actaully tell you stuff.
*side note: i have a big problem with keeping all my feelings to my self*
You use to just tell me where you were going and all of a sudden. Okay one of the reasons i dont tell you stuff anymore is beacuse everytime i do, you either say “oh” or worst of all you dont say anything at all… like you just dont care, so i gave up and just stopped. Sweetie, you know im not asking you to sit there and text me when your at your friends house, just dont execpt me to text me when im at mine.
Ex:If I were to go over to tayers tonight for the bonfire and then just not text you until i go home on friday. youd be PISSED. so why do you think i SHOUD be okay with you not texting me all day?
And dont even give me that ” i text you all the time im playing ps3, beacuse thats bull shit, you dont and you know it. okay yeah when your home and playing by your self, you call or text, but the calling doesnt really count because you dont really even talk. If you dont want to talk, just say so, or just dont call. you know honey its sad when i get use to the slinces (10-15 mins long) almost every night on the phone, sweetie like i said before if you dont want to talk dont call but please dont just sit ther and not talk to me. okay i know this isnt really something that i should jst upset about but im going to ask anyway, when i get really pissed , why do you just sit there and take it and not say anything to defend your self?… Why do you say you miss me and wish i was there, but you dont really act like it?! Now, even after all this ranting and raving i just did, i know that not all of this is your fault, I KNOW im at fault here to and trust me sweetheart, im tring. okay? ”
what do you think, should i??
August 23rd, 2011 at 8:36 pm
Your rambling on and on. I think that you need to shorten it and get to the point. But I mean in reality you are 4 hours apart…you lead to separate lives and in order for it to work you will need a lot Patience and understanding. It’ going to take Alot work.
me
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August 23rd, 2011 at 9:37 pm
This is exactly what’s wrong with freakin texting- do you really need to be in this close a contact with someone? No.
If you know where he’s going and he texts/calls when he’s back- that’s good enough.
10-15 minute silences on the phone indicate that either he’s SLEEPY or he’s really just talked enough today.
Feel better knowing you got all these feeling out and press DELETE. Gosh- get a grip woman- you have things to do and so does he. When you communicate it should be joyful- if he’s not paying enough attention to you, dump him. But right now you really do sound far too needy and immature.
Sorry to be so harsh but really, truly, get a grip. Men do NOT like needy clingy women.
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August 23rd, 2011 at 10:36 pm
I agree with both Kris and DM…
You need to relax. You claim to not be controlling and trust him and all that jazz, but every word in the letter screams controlling and un-trusting. There was so much rambling and ranting that you just don’t make any sense by the end of this letter. I don’t think that you should send this but if you feel that you absolutely must, get to the point. Half of what you said is pointless and just makes you look worse.
Best wishes and good luck- Renn
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August 23rd, 2011 at 11:36 pm
Maybe make it grammatically correct first, that might help take away from how woman-crazy-controlling you sound.
Best wishes and good luck- Renn
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August 24th, 2011 at 12:35 am
You do sound a little clingy. I also like to know where my boyfriend is at.. but I don’t always know what he’s doing until we talk afterwards. He’s the same with me. He wants to know where I’m at and everything. He expects details, yet doesn’t give me any. I think it’s a guy thing. I would shorten this and get straight to the point. Tell him how it makes you feel.. without attacking him.. that’s what it sounds like to me.. an attack.
Having a long distance relationship is very hard. For 5 months my boyfriend was 6 hours away. When I was your age, I wouldn’t have been able to do a long distance relationship. It was hard for me even now, but you learn to deal with it. This could actually be affecting your boyfriend. While apart, you start to lose a sense of closeness. Maybe he’s not sure about the relationship anymore. When you have settled down, calmly talk to him.
Best wishes and good luck- Renn
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