Should I break up with my boyfriend?
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. I love him more than anything, honestly. But things have been starting to go downhill and I don’t really know how to keep it from spiraling out of control. So here’s the story; his best friend is a girl. I’m not typically the jealous type, but she gets to me for some reason. He liked her a few years ago. She is absolutely gorgeous and she gets along with his friends because they are friends with her. A few nights ago, he had a kick back at his house, and I had a show so I had to go late. So when I got there both of them were pretty slaughtered. He hung out more with her than with me, and I felt like all of his friends would rather him be with her than me. So I had to leave around one thirty, after driving all of his friends home. But she didn’t want a ride home…she wanted to stay and sober up…so I left. The next day my boyfriend texted me at 2 in the afternoon so I asked what time she had left. He said four in the morning. So I got a little ticked. It’s not the first time she has stayed at his house super late, and it bothers me and he knows it. So I told him I understand she wanted to sober up, but I still don’t feel comfortable with what happened. He said that I had every right to be upset because if I had done the same thing…he would be pissed. Well that comment sent us on a lovely trip of arguing, and I tried to explain to him how I felt, and I only got attacked with the things I do that make him angry, and how I don’t understand their friendship. blah blah. I’m getting really frustrated with the situation. I don’t know how to talk to him about it, or what to do. I don’t want to break up, but I feel so threatened by her, any advice would be amazing.
Thank You.

October 14th, 2011 at 2:36 pm
try talking to him.
Jah Love
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October 14th, 2011 at 7:36 pm
It’s over
Jah Love
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October 15th, 2011 at 12:36 am
you cant tell him who to not be friends with.. but this chick sounds like she may be the sneaky kind who would want to slip in a relationship. atleast he understands why you are ticked… just talk to him. if really wants to be with you he will tell her to tone it down.
Jah Love
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October 15th, 2011 at 5:37 am
umm yeah that sounds really sketch & i wouldn’t trust that girl at. all.
you need to take control of that situation & say something to your bfriend. just be like “look, things need to change. i can’t keep doing this because its just not right.” personally i would flip out & probably say something to the girl too haha but thats just me. good luck!
ps stand your ground! don’t let him convince you that you’re the wrong one in this situation.
Jah Love
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October 15th, 2011 at 5:37 am
umm yeah that sounds really sketch & i wouldn’t trust that girl at. all.
you need to take control of that situation & say something to your bfriend. just be like “look, things need to change. i can’t keep doing this because its just not right.” personally i would flip out & probably say something to the girl too haha but thats just me. good luck!
ps stand your ground! don’t let him convince you that you’re the wrong one in this situation.
Jah Love
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October 15th, 2011 at 9:37 am
you should have a girl’s night with his best friend. you know, talk about some things. understand each other. thennn decide whether the relationship is worth it or not
Jah Love
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October 15th, 2011 at 1:35 pm
you cant love him, because you dont trust him. if shes a friend, let her be one. you cant get between a long lived relationship like that. if he couldve had her, he wouldnt have decided to date you. so chillax.
duh
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October 15th, 2011 at 6:36 pm
If he does not want to understand your feelings when you try talking to him you have two choices:
Do the same thing to him and see how he reacts with a guy you’ve been close to throughout the year.
OR..
Leave him.
If you feel like it’s never going to change and you’re feelings are going to continue the way they are, just let go.
duh
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October 15th, 2011 at 7:35 pm
well.. since he understands the situation you’re in (when his friend left at 4) maybe you should just talk to him calmly bout it..he seems to be an understanding, listening kind of guy so yeah just talk to him and see what happens.. and/or maybe you should talk to the girl.. his friend..shes a girl so she would most probably understand..
good luck..hope i helped =)
me, myself, and i =)
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October 15th, 2011 at 9:36 pm
i dont recommend u do it in my way.
firstly, make him faint,(chloroform or w/e will do)
~ Tied him up
~ have s*x with him and says that you love him more than anything else, be mind and cry.
i’m not sure if it will work though.
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October 15th, 2011 at 11:36 pm
Sit him down and talk to him dont raise ur voice or anything and if he does ask him to calm down ur just trying to talk to him and work it out. i have the similar situation my bestfriend is also a girl but her boyfriend is one of my closest friends ever and my gf is totally ok with me and my bestfriend hanging out. but yeah 4 a.m is pretty late to be over even for sobering up. talk to him see how that goes. good luck answer my question
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AkSqndPaEi5bEJhMEIAfqnjsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090727181442AAMjCvY
i’m not sure if it will work though.
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October 16th, 2011 at 1:36 am
I used to have a guy best friend, and we’d be lying on top of each other all the time, just cause we were comfortable with it. But when he got a girlfriend, I wouldn’t do it, cause it just isn’t what a girlfriend wants to see.
I don’t think your boyfriends best friend is getting overly close with him, I just think they’re right like that. You mustn’t let it bother you too much, cause it might all be harmless; but if you can’t help feeling jealous, you need to talk to your boyfriend again without attacking him. Asking him for his reassurance about their relationship shouldn’t do too much damage, although he may retaliate by saying that you don’t trust him.
You just need to let yourself get over it. It’s perfectly fine to be jealous, but don’t let it ruin your relationship.
i’m not sure if it will work though.
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October 16th, 2011 at 3:37 am
Aweee. Wow, I’d be in total distress too if I were you.
It seems like your boyfriend and the girl have known each other for a while, so you can’t expect them to give up their friendship all of a sudden… But on the other side, remember- HE CHOSE YOUU AS HIS GIRLFRIEND, AND NOT HER!! So, I know it’s hard to do, but don’t freak out and definitely don’t be threatened by her! Maybe just try to talk to him again and let him know how you feel.
All the best.
i’m not sure if it will work though.
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October 16th, 2011 at 6:37 am
Yea he sounds like a jerk to me. It seems he didn’t take your concerns seriously and doesn’t care what you think. If he was worth it he would be sorry and begging for forgiveness and he would never do it again. Also I got pissed when my gf had a guy over during the day let alone the night. You have every right to be angry and he either needs to wise up and get over his ego or you ought to leave him But, don’t let mine or any ones opinion play heavily on you. We don;t understand the good times you’ve had with your BF so we shouldn’t be taken too seriously. Just trust your instincts and you will be fine I assure you.
i’m not sure if it will work though.
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October 16th, 2011 at 8:36 am
Sooner or later he is going to have sex with her,but I can’t really say that because I don’t know him or you.
i’m not sure if it will work though.
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