Mom is ALL in my business.?
I’m in my 5th year of school and graduating in May. I go to a large state college which has a very bad and nortious reputation for being difficult. They have a tendency to lose paper work, people never call you back, their policies for graduation and fin aid are crazy. Try to talk to an actual person—yeah, right…………hello, automated systems and voicemails. This is the administration, the professors are great. Anyway, you get the picture.
So, I had some trouble with registering for one class. This brought my financial aid status down and I lost of it. My bill is still paid in full, which is the important thing. Anyway, I told my mom about it. We are very close and I tell her all about school.
Well, she flew off the handle and called the school. She didn’t even know who she was taking about. This was a financial aid problem, but she called my former major (i’m on my 2nd different one) and asked why I had not graduated yet.
The head of that major’s dept
told my that I should think about a different major. Which is what I’m doing.
So, basically my mother was speaking to the wrong person, in the wrong major and my mom was clueless to what courses/major I had been taking.
To make a long story short………….she is constantly butting in and citing incorrect information.
This causes HUGE fights, b/c she doesn’t believe anything I say. I have gone to this school for 5 years. It is VERY common for most people to graduate after 5 years, not 4. I mean, it’s hard to graduate when you have almost 40 classes of just gen ed (go state school for taking your hard earned money on a gym class–yes, we are required to do a semester of phys ed.)
I’m paying for school on my own. ALL of my loans from the past 5 years are in MY name.
What should I do? My mom’s concern is really too much. It causes huge fights and is very stressful. I’m doing the best I can to complete everything and graduate.
My mom is a bit controlling. In the past, she’s even called my place of employment to tell me to drive careful in the rain.
I live on campus, which she has no problem letting me do. She not overprotective……just misinformed, which makes her FLY off the handle about everything.
She constantly things she’s right (to everyone). Don’t try to tell her otherwise.

July 27th, 2011 at 11:36 pm
Wow a very concerned Mom!!! Could be a good thing or a bad thing…in this case, its a bad thing……
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July 28th, 2011 at 12:36 am
WELL, since you claim to be all intelligent an stuff, I be suggestin that you all STOP invitin yur MA IN TO your bizness. YEA.
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July 28th, 2011 at 1:36 am
next time, just don’t tell you your’e problems in school. i know you are close, but you don’t want her butting in all of the time and getting into fights with her, do you? just tell her the general stuff, what you are learning, what you did the other night, who you met. don’t tell her the compicated things you are supposed to handle because to you it may seem like just a chat but to her it is probably a cry for help- and obviously she is taking it. and tell your mom, yes it is verrrrry common for people to graduate after 5 years, especially when switching their majors…and you said you have done it twice!
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July 28th, 2011 at 2:36 am
Love your mom for how she is. Be glade you can still talk to you mom. Give her a big hug and say thank you for caring! I can no longer talk to my mom! Wish I could! Be glade your mom cares. There are a lot of kids that get into trouble because no one cared about them! Enjoy your mom! She is the only one you have.
Personal experiance
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July 28th, 2011 at 3:36 am
Sounds like your Mom loves you more than you realize. Some kids, Not saying you but it is possible, think that parents who show love like this are just getting in your business. I have seen kids who think that parents are a pain in the butt if they get involved and if they don’t get involved the the kids think the parents don’t care. You can’t have it both ways. If you Mom is mis-informed. it’s more than likely it’s because you only tell your Mom bits and pieces of the whole story/picture, therefore being your fault. Believe me, I have been through this. I was young once so I know how kids think and how they think about their parents. If you youngsters would take ten minutes of your “such busy life” and sit down and talk with Not talk at your parents as friends, then parents can help. We are not dumb and we are not ignorant. Controlling? Let me tell you something. A parent is a parent forever. Parents care (most of them) and just want to help their kids. Kids are not near as smart as they think. This is a major problem. Stop being so ungrateful and try to tell your Mom whats going on and tell her all of it. Then she can help you better. You started this by involving your Mom and now then you blame your Mom. That is rather selfish, disrespectful and certainly rude. So stop feeling sorry for yourself and stop involving your Mom or appreciate her trying to help you and being a parent.
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July 28th, 2011 at 4:36 am
She can’t get in your business if you don’t tell her what is going on.
Don’t tell her everything, just tell her how classes are going how you are doing, how work is and change jobs if you have to.
Make a list of things that you are going to talk about before you call her and only talk about that.
She can’t butt in if she don’t know knowing about it.
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July 28th, 2011 at 5:36 am
Well, since you know how she is and you are an adult limit what you tell her. It’s that simple. I know what not to bring up to my mother sometimes I slip…but just be careful. I wouldn’t be too angry at her though, she probably is a “helicopter parent” (look up this definition) colleges are used to these types of phone calls. Good luck.
Hopefully she wont do this (helicopter parents):
Beyond college-As these students graduate and move on to the job market, personnel and human resources departments are becoming acquainted with the phenomenon as well. Some have reported that parents have begun intruding on salary negotiations
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July 28th, 2011 at 7:37 am
you will have to deal with it because my mom bugs my phones and look at my text messege
Hopefully she wont do this (helicopter parents):
Beyond college-As these students graduate and move on to the job market, personnel and human resources departments are becoming acquainted with the phenomenon as well. Some have reported that parents have begun intruding on salary negotiations
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