Life isnt fair?
Honestly I’m tired of hearing this. My best friend passed away 7 months ago at the age of 21 from leukemia. The disease killed her in 10 months. She had so much to live for and was a very loving, happy person. I understand that life isnt fair but I’m tired of all the other ppl around me that complain “Life isnt fair, she was taken from us too soon” blah blah blah. I lived with the girl, we were best friends and sisters at heart. I have to walk through her bedroom everyday, see her things on the wall, sit on the couch we bought together, everything every minute reminds me of her and these fake people are starting to tick me off. I’m tired of hearing complaints that life isnt fair…we know this so get over it. All I wanna know is how to cope. How do I deal with her death? Any suggestions
June 15th, 2011 at 5:34 pm
you will never come to terms with the death of someone you love, there are support groups you can go to but it aint an instant result. you are still greiving and that can take years.
it will get easier as time goes by.
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June 15th, 2011 at 10:34 pm
Try Hospice. They have great bereavement programs. I used it when my mother died. The first thing that they tell you is there is no time limit on grief. Everyone needs to deal with it in their own way at their own time.
Good Luck!
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June 16th, 2011 at 4:34 am
Like you one of my best friends died at 21 of cancer as well. His fiance (my bestfriend) was of course devastated. We used to get together often and of course Dave would always come up in conversation. We’d laugh and cry for hours over all the good times we did have. We cried when we talked about how lucky we were to have known him in the time he did have.
My girlfriend told me years later that it helped her alot that she could talk to someone who wanted to remember Dave for the life he’d lived and not the way he died. Try to find someone who wants to remember your friend and the life she led and the impact she had on people. To be honest I remember being almost grateful that he was past all the pain as he’d fought hard for 4 years. I liked the idea that he was now at peace.
Try and find someone who wants to celebrate your friends’ life. Sounds like you were a very lucky person to have known this girl. I know I’m still grateful I ever got to know Dave, he was an unbelievable individual. I still think of him often and he’s been gone 27 yrs this August. Keeping your friends memory alive is the best tribute you could pay her.
So sorry for your loss.
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