Is there a way to get rid of my burning hatred and anger?
I have very strong feelings of rage for many reasons… For one I grew up being hit. From age 5 to 10 I was hit by my teachers by sadistic teachers with rulers, belts, paddles, everything….My parents hit me for an even longer period then them… and the most recent time was in 07 when i was home from college. (yes college) I grew up in a tiny, dirty house with roaches and mice and my parents werent even poor, just cheap. my parents have been mean all my life. I also don’t have any friends… Every friend I’ve ever had has been pretty much a jerk….And there’s loads more reasons for ne to hate lol Because of all this I get really mad sometimes… Im short tempered and always ready to fight but when I beat someone up I always feel bad about it… I recently told my father that I would beat his ass if he touched me again and a bunch of mean stuff and I feel bad about it even though he’s a jerk…How can I control my hatred and anger? Counseling hasn’t helped btw
June 8th, 2011 at 3:33 pm
sock a pillow with the faces of people you hate.
me-over 22 years doing pest control
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June 8th, 2011 at 4:34 pm
Closure. What you need is closure and acceptance that you had a rough life but you’re ready to move on. Growing up, if i make mistakes, I sometimes get pinched in the legs or slapped in the butt. There was even this one time where i knelt on salt rocks for having poor grades in Math but it did not make me short tempered or angry at life. I don’t know. I am happy with my childhood because amidst it all, my parents are very caring and loving. They provided us with everything we need.
Going back to your problem, it would help if you could talk to them about this. tell them that you’re like this because of them. I think it will help you release some of your pent-up rage.
me-over 22 years doing pest control
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June 8th, 2011 at 5:33 pm
How many counselors have you seen? If you’ve only seen one, it might be that you just didn’t have a good fit personality-wise. You could try finding another. You might want to try an anger management class, or look into martial arts as an outlet for your anger. A lot of people try running and say it’s great, but when I get angry I usually use up all of my energy in anger so I can’t run, so it depends on what you like to do and how you feel when you’re angry. If you aren’t willing to seek professional help, though, and if exercise isn’t enough, then I don’t think anyone here can help you.
me-over 22 years doing pest control
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June 8th, 2011 at 6:34 pm
Maybe if you start picking on guys who are better fighters than you, you will get your a$$ beaten enough that you will stop.
You know something, you are not alone on this and many make it through it. The only person that is going to be able to do something is you. You could have reported all the abuse but it seems you would rather sit around and cry about it and not seek real help. Until you do that no one is going to do anything. If you don’t do anything soon I see a nice little stint in jail or prison for you at the cost of your victim. Talk with a professional on this with more of your heart in it than before or find different counselors. Seriously.
me-over 22 years doing pest control
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June 8th, 2011 at 7:33 pm
Easy, focus it on something productive that you can be proud of. Right now you’re complaining about everything that’s wrong in your life, all the obstacles that keep you down. Maybe it’s time to rise up, to decide to become something better, to learn from all the negative and create something positive and meaningful. Not just for yourself, but for your community.
You can funnel the hate into an action like sports, martial arts or boxing or MMA. Sports have the added benefit of teaching you discipline. Then use the rest of your drive to lead to positive change in all other aspects of your life.
You control your fate. Sounds like you want something better, so make it happen.
me-over 22 years doing pest control
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