I’m a very sexual Female. How do I get more pleasure out of my b/f and him WANTING it more!!!?
Seems at the start of our relationship we had sex more often, I did however at this time live in another state so I would fly to see him and sex would be when we saw each other. Once I moved we had sex, he has ED though so he has to take meds time to time, but fully capable of getting a hard on. Keeping it another thing…he has to focus and focus hard, sometimes this is really discouraging for me.
Anyway…
he’s an amazing lover, when it HAPPENS! well we’ve been living together for a while and I am pregnant with his child ( 6 months ) which he wanted more than I. So I gave him what he wanted, typically I do! I give him what he wants. I was the one that picked up and moved 800 miles away and I did leave a lot behind for what I thought would be happiness all the time. Or well…more so than anger and sadness.
I think he’s content I think it’s me that’s unhappy-he seems to spend more time on his computer or with friends or doing his film stuff, etc. I work full-time and seeking a second job which I may have soon just to please him. So our time is limited anyway…
but so onto my actual question. I’m an extremely sexual person, always have been and very sexually attracted to him. Since I’ve been pregnant I feel so much more horny, I masturbate every day sometimes a few times. I watch porn more than he does.
In fact once I’m done typing this message I will go to my xxx rated site and watch some. I stripped naked this morning HOPING to get some sex, I froze my ass off last night working so hard to get unstuck from the East coast snow to hurry to get home to him to shower-ONLY to have his ass bitch and complain about his back when he had to shovel a bit of snow…I was shoveling and trying to get unstuck for 3 hours-him less than a half-hour.
He ended up going to sleep on me, didn’t even kiss me to say goodnight I had to come to the bedroom to do so. I watched porn while he was sleeping and touched myself but wasn’t working-I was like damn, first off masturbation only gets you so far-or well ME. I need sex! I need that actual penis to get me off.
So I’m naked this am, and he doesn’t even touch my body-nothing. WTF! I’m so tired of it, yes I see he may have a penis issue or a freaken back problem from time to time but he sure doesn’t have that issue as much when needing to go watch football at his friends house for hours, or hang out otherwise.
All I want is him to want me, desire me, HE claims he does. But come on…then why aren’t you touching my body and wanting it more often??. I make comments all the time I want to kiss your…or lick your…or sexual stuff, wearing sexy outfits even though prego, and they are sexy.
Let’s just say I do whatever to try to turn him on, any other man I think it would turn on. Maybe I want it to much, but he claims when he was younger he had sex or wanted it 10 times a day, not caring what the girl wanted or not.
He was married and claimed he was very sexual with her, but why am I different? He won’t even do it rough with me b/c he says the girls he did it real rough with were girls he never cared about. So IDK! weird.
…I just want it & I’d love to have some now. But hell even saying I want to spend time with him this eve since we are snowed in and I’ve been working like crazy all he said was “sure, I guess” well damn. I don’t want to make you do something you don’t want to to.
Please help!!! to me it seems like a LOST cause, I think I will forever need to use a vibe or leave him and get w/ someone that just wants sex. But really I like the lovey dovey part of it to, but even that he’s been lacking.
So you tell me. Maybe he wants another woman, or needs one. IDK!
Well I will add more here since you commented on your hubby. I was married and in the relationship eight years, I left my husband due to lack of sex, and emotional support etc. My b/f ( current ) was giving me what I wanted at the time, assuming he would always be like this–lol. Guess not…
Anyway so I picked up and left 800 miles away from my home state. I think your right, every man has to be this way. It’s not like when they were teenagers or college kids talking about sex, sex, sex…lol.
He spoke about how he did it all the time but really? why don’t I see that? cause I surely want it! and bad. Yeah that’s what I get IF I get that, two times a week.
And when I mention I want his body or something sexual he says “your funny” why am I funny? it’s not funny. Shouldn’t it TURN him on? then he never answers why he feels it’s funny.
Whatever! kinda annoying…maybe I should have become a porn star, lack of emotional support but lots of sex and $$$.lol
I HAVE told him of my needs…so I don’t know where to go from here. As far as “playing” trying new things, Oh I have…so Ya I don’t know. But my sex drive is way high.
The oral is amazing and he can get me off during fingering or intercourse but he hasn’t gone down on me since I’ve gotten pregnant, although an excitement for him that I am. He says I taste like IRON!
sucks cause I want him to do that sooo sooo bad! I am a very naughty girl that’s for sure. But I love slow love making sex too. ALL OF IT!

August 1st, 2011 at 3:36 pm
hmmm sounds familiar. From my own experience with my X husband, You will never get what you want outa him. I am a very attractive woman and felt the same exact way toward my husband of 20 years (we were married at 22) it dropped of to around 2x’s a week. I wanted it everyday even 2x’s a day would of been o.k. .. never got it. and trust me, it only gets worse. up until i left at age 36, we were doing it about once every 3rd or 4th week. took only 60 sec. awful ha? ya, and he never caressed me like you described either. I always thought i was wasting my “beauty” on him, and i was right. I think most men are like this. They get lazy or something. I You can’t just leave him if there is love there, and you have a baby on the way? It just doesn’t make sense to do something drastic due to lack of sex. Just get a good vibrator and enjoy the moments when you can get it from him. Also, maybe he thinks he’ll hurt the baby by having sex w/you. (mine did) even though he wouldn’t admit it until later. Needles to say, after a 20 year marriage of lack of being appreciated in a womanly way, we split and now I’m with someone whom truly appreciates my body and shows it every day. Not necessarily sex everyday but touching and stroking,,. you know, as you described just being appreciated. Good luck.
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August 1st, 2011 at 6:37 pm
It definitely sounds like the thrill has gone for some one.
Being six months pregnant is a bad time to find out he doesn’t understand or have the very strong sexual drive you have.(many a mans dream to have such a passionate girl and many would say you have an addition to sex)
So you will have to talk to him about all that you have said here in answers to really come to know your options that would be your best first move put every thing on the table he is not satisfying your needs ETC..Be ready to compromise and experiment. You may have to decide what is the most important thing rather what is the most satisfying for you.
all the best
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August 1st, 2011 at 9:36 pm
He might just be embarrased about the whole ED thing. The act of sex itself might embarass him or something. Is he any good in the oral department? If not, teach him to be. BTW. More girls should be like you. I keep hooking up with the ones that are not really into sex. Laaaaame.
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August 2nd, 2011 at 12:37 am
You need to drop him like a bad habit.
In the relationship (if you can call it that) he is the taker and you are the giver.
You became pregnant because he wanted it, and you moved to be with him.
Personally, I would love to meet a woman who has a high sex drive and who is not ashamed to admit it.
At the very least, make your lazy b/f shovel the snow, as you have yourself and a baby to think about.
I hope that you find a man who loves you for being you and one who can meet all of your needs and desires.
If you decide to leave your b/f, make sure he pays the maximum amount of child support allowed by law.
Good luck
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