I want a baby, my clock is ticking, etc.?
Jul.19, 2011 in
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but my boyfriend wants to wait. We are both old enough and have had a beautiful relationship for 6 years, that’s not an issue. Stable jobs, insurance, etc. And I know if I were to get pregnant, he wouldn’t leave and would be excited. Could I stop taking my birth control and just leave it to fate? Or would that be wrong? Lately it’s just all I can think about. Please help!
Just because we aren’t married, doesn’t make it any less serious of a relationship. I don’t see why a marriage is necessary, I know he loves me, and I know who he comes home to. Many married women don’t have that. And I don’t want to be sneaky, so maybe I should just ask for ways I could bring up that I really want to do this?
July 19th, 2011 at 11:36 am
This is a hard one, my husband always wanted to wait so we did. We just had our first baby in April and I am 35. Now he says he wishes we didn’t wait so long! You just never know. How old are you and how many do you want?
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July 19th, 2011 at 6:37 pm
leave it to fate. it would make you happier once you find out that your test is blue =]
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July 20th, 2011 at 1:36 am
If your boyfriend doesn’t want one, then maybe you shouldn’t just surprise him. Just tell him truthfuly that you really want a baby and that there’s not much time anymore. If he understands, great! If he doesn’t, just keep talking to him.
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July 20th, 2011 at 8:36 am
That’s what i did. My boyfriend wanted to wait, but i just stopped taking my pills and BOOM! i got pregnant. Now he’s all excited. But- your boyfriend may not be as excited… idk.
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July 20th, 2011 at 2:36 pm
Ask your boyfriend why he wants to wait?
Maybe he wants to get married first???? AWW
Def. tell him if your going on the birth control though
communication is key lol
good luck!
=]
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July 20th, 2011 at 6:36 pm
That would be very wrong. Very wrong! Either tell him how you’re feeling… Go discuss it in therapy so you’re not obsessing…. or, if you are still too impatient leave him and find someone who wants a child.
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July 20th, 2011 at 10:36 pm
umm idk
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July 21st, 2011 at 1:36 am
that is what we are doing now. so the past 5 months nothing. talk with him and see what he says about leaving it up to fate. inform him of your feelings of needing the pregnancy now. let him know that once over 35 if you are around this age your chances are lowered so it is best to start now and hopefully within the year you will get pregnant. good luck
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July 21st, 2011 at 4:36 am
I would say no, that could cause problems. I would be truthful about him explain how desperately you want one and your situation. Then tell him that you understand his side, but your clock is ticking. Try talking him into leaving into fate, but I would not just do it. That is a very “sneaky” thing to do to someone, especially of that much importance. I hope everything works out for you
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July 21st, 2011 at 8:36 am
no you sound young and will probly have to rely on the entitlement system to survive and feed your child -i.e. welfare-
the welfare and entitlement system will collapse soon when the stock market crashes in about febuary
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July 21st, 2011 at 11:38 am
don’t “leave it to fate by getting off birth control” that would be wrong with out your boyfriends knowing.
You have to talk to him more (even though im sure your doing that already)
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July 21st, 2011 at 3:36 pm
6 years and your not married and he doesn’t want to have children…sounds like he isn’t ready to comment to you or the thought of a family yet. facts are if a man hasn’t asked to marry you after the first year then it isn’t going anywhere much less children. you need to make sure your relationship with him is fine before you stop taking your pills behind his back.
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July 21st, 2011 at 6:36 pm
You cannot make a decision for both of you, that would be unfair to him, besides he is not supposed to leave you if he truly loves you, pregnant or not pregnant.
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July 21st, 2011 at 10:35 pm
Well, I am infertile.
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July 22nd, 2011 at 2:37 am
I was having a similar issue. Trust me, wait until he comes around. My husband finally agreed that we can start trying in a month, and now it is so exciting dreaming about it with him. I think it will make it a much happier time for both of you than if it was a shock to him
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July 22nd, 2011 at 6:36 am
I don’t think just going off of you birth control is a great idea. He might not react so well if he find out.
It sounds cliche but just chat to him about it. Tell him how much you want to have a baby, and how you don’t want to be too much older before you conceive.
Find out why he wants to wait, there may be a good reason.
Good luck.
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July 22nd, 2011 at 11:36 am
that is a hard one. i have 5 children four being boys, after my fourth hubby said he wanted to try for a girl but wanted to wait about 5 yrs. i wasnt using protection and ended up pg when my fourth was 6 mos old. well we got our lil girl and he couldn’t be happier. its up to u, i do know both of my sister got pg on the pill b/c they took antibioitcs while on it and didnt know that it messes up the pill. a child can either make or break a relationship. but at the same time u dont wanna take a chance of waitng til its too late. i personally would go for it. if its not meant to be god wont allow for it. best wishes.
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July 22nd, 2011 at 4:36 pm
don’t go off birth control without telling him. Find out why he wants to wait. Maybe he has a reason or maybe he is just scared – either way it’s disrespectful of his feelings to not discuss it with him before stopping birth control.
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July 22nd, 2011 at 10:36 pm
The last thing you want to do is leave it up to chance if you both aren’t on the same page. It’s great that you’re stable but you both need to want this baby before stopping birth control. You wouldn’t want him to resent the child because you got pregnant by “mistake”. Or he could get upset that you knew he didn’t want to have a baby yet but stopped birth control anyway. Talk about it and create a plan for when you will have a baby so that you can stop stressing about it.
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July 23rd, 2011 at 4:39 am
The first step is to talk to the man that could potentially be your child’s father. This should be a joint decision, because it will change your lives forever. If he wants a child too, then go from there.
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July 23rd, 2011 at 10:39 am
That is a tough one but come on you have been together for 6 years what is he waiting for? First make shure he knows how much you wont a baby and than if he still wants to wait than you should just tell him that you are going to get pregnant. If he wants to leave than the sooner you can get on with your life.You should also talk about marriage I don’t know where you stand on that but if you are talking about getting pregnant you should also be talking about marriage.If he wants to wait on that also than ask him what is the difference we are living like we are married why not do the right thing and just be married?
Good Luck!!
Hope you get pregnant soon!!
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