I have a really bad temper.?
I have some kind of problem idk what it is, I get mad very easily now an days. I’m having a hard time controlling my emotions, just anything could set me off, and I’ll start either crying or get really mad. Most the times I take it out on my bf and he himself has a attitude problem. So when that does happen to us, It’s like 2 dogs fighting over food. I mean it gets bad. I have notice myself hitting my bf alot recently and I don’t want to start anything physical with him even though I know he would never lay a hand on me, I’m scared of what I might do to him. My bf does say though that I def do not hitt like a girl, which I think is funny, but at the same time it scares me because when I have them days that I get like that It’s like I’m in a horrible dream Idk what happens, it’s like I blackout. My bf and I have been fighting alot recently and I’m afraid I’m going to tick like a bomb and explode in his face. I also do it too my parents, they can say how are you? And I’ll scream at them, like “Why would you ask me that’??! This is been going on since I was a about 8 yrs old. How can I control my emotions before it hurts the ones I love more than it already has?
August 23rd, 2011 at 4:36 pm
You need some anger management to learn new and more positive ways of dealing with your anger and frustration. Hitting another individual is never okay, and is domestic abuse which could land you in jail. As well ruin your relationship, eventually your boyfriend will get tired of your emotional outbursts. Seek the assistance of a counselor to get to the root of this anger as well assist you in developing more positive ways of coping. Good luck.
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August 23rd, 2011 at 7:36 pm
i think you need an anger management class, QUICK! there is obviously something inside of you, maybe in your unconscious, subconscious, or your id that has manifested and become so bad that it brings out the worst in you. until you get that anger management class, you should try to avoid others for a while.
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August 23rd, 2011 at 10:36 pm
Rule 1: Don’t sweat the little stuff
Rule 2: It’s all little stuff
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This might be attributable to stress whether brought on by yourself or others. For example you are not where you expected to be in your career. Now some people think that diet is a factor, I am not positive on that but I am absolutely certain that it can help you handle your reactions. Here I am talking about vitamins, speifically B Complex. Initially take a doublle dose for a week (it won’t hurt you) and then drop down to a single dose from then on. You should find that although it doesn’t remove the temper, it reduces it and you are better equipped to handle it.
First off make yourself a promise never to hit anyone for any reason unless they are physically attacking you. Don’t even threaten to hit anyone.
Understand that nobody has exactly the same opinions, point of view, and personality that you have and everyone will have a quirk that you do not approve of. You dont have to accept it or reject it, you do need to accept it as a difference. Don’t take that difference personally and they won’t (shouldn’t) either.
If your bf does something a certain way which you wouldn’t do that way, it might be that you never even thought about it that way. Ask yourself a question, did it accomplish the goal? If so, like they say in New York, forget about it.
Next promise to make is not to yell. People stop listening when you yell. If you have participated in a debate team or seen one (the presidential debates are not exactly a true debate but are close). A debate is a civilized argument with rules. Do not be surprised if neither side agrees with the other but expect that each side understands the others opinion. Speak calmly and clearly your case and point out specific facts that you can prove. Don’t ramble on, make it as short and sweet as you can. If you are interrupted, say “Excuse me I need to make my point and when I am done you can have your say”.. Listen to his side intently and without interruption. If you need to respond, do so but address the points on his response and nothing else other than “can we resolve this if …”
I think you will find that if you and everyone else have their say, tempers will not get as high.
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August 24th, 2011 at 1:39 am
Perhaps you were designed by the devil to become and to behave in the way you are.
Now, you might try and glowingly imagine that you were designed by a loving angel, by that ever sweet and smiling angel that may have to more warmly be summoned by you to get back and stand nearer behind you,
and remind you that you might try and reflect a bit before you behave in the irate way, before you start verbally or in other harder way hitting somebody.
You might try and diligently compose a loving dreamy prayer to the angel that you imagine as having designed you. You might try and pray to that glowing angel to help you more carefully exercise in learning how to control your emotions, how to get a habit of doing things that will not risk to evoke some painful regret within the warm throbbing vaults of your own chest.
You might lovingly ask that guardian angel to be more your tutor, your vigilant companion,
in the ardent effort to create, or to more sweetly add up to, some good glowing memories for your future.
Have a laugh.
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