How long should I wait on my boyfriend who is loveable and caring man?
My boyfriend when to the UK for a week job. He had asked me if he should go. I told him yes bc I wanted to be supportive, non selfish and not controlling. He won’t have gone if I would have said no from what he tells me know.
It’s been over a month now that he has been stuck in the UK. He had a shooting accident when he was on his way to the airport in the UK to fly to TX to be with me. He had gone there in the middle of the night close to midnight time. Now, we know for him not to do this late at night.
My question is that he is stuck in the hospital because he had to pay the bill. He has done that and has been released by the Dr and hospital. He can’t leave bc the FBI will not allow him to because this case is still under investigation. He has a legal issue with this now with the FBI. He can’t leave till this is resolved. It’s not his fault and I know he is not lieing bc I’ve talked to the hospital staff member about all of this already. Lieing is not my point in this question.
I’m not too happy because he had said he was flying to TX as soon as he signs his release paper. Since he has been in this hospital something always seems to delay his trip back to TX to be with me. I know its not his fault but I’m frustrated and loosing my patience with him and his situation. He has been in this hospital now for over a month.
My first reaction is to not wait and move on till he gets here in person. My 2nd reaction is to wait it out bc its not his fault he is in this situation. I told him I’m wanting a relationship with him through thick and thin. Now, I’m being tested and I want to walk out of it just bc I’m afraid of wasting my time even though its not his fault. I think I will have to send him some $ to get out of this legal situation him paying me back when he gets back to the USA. He will sign a legal document for this loan that makes me liable.
Should I wait it out and be supportive as I expect him to do if I was in this situation or should I move out in the intention that I will get back with him when he gets back to the USA or what? I insinuated this the last time I chatted with him. He got really upset and cried because he is in pain there at the hospital. He says he loves me and doesn’t want to loose me and for me to stop blaming him for this situation when its not his fault.
I would rather deal with this situation than deal with other men out there that go to strip clubs, bars, drunks, cheaters and abusers. My boyfriend is known of this.
I just need to brain storm this and see what other men or woman think in this situation.
September 21st, 2011 at 10:37 am
When someone marries, you are to marry through sickness and in health. You are not married to him, but you made a commitment to him. I don’t even believe that you are thinking about moving on. You should be praying for him, his health, for him to be let go even if the investigation is not over.
If it were you in his shoes, what would you want him to do????
I would not have left my boyfriend if his circumstances left him stranded somewhere. I would have wanted to fly there myself.
His family know about it? Can they help pay for him to leave?
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September 21st, 2011 at 11:36 am
wait for him. if you love him and want to be wiht him, why should something outside his control break you two apart? if it’s serious like you say, if you don’t wait for him he will definitely not “understand” if you “move on” till he gets back. He didn’t do the crime don’t make him do the time.
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September 21st, 2011 at 12:36 pm
Where is it that you want to move on to? Do you have a guy lined up? Or you just want to have the pressure off you? If he is your bf, then he is your bf. A week, a month, two months, etc, how can you give up on him? Did he shoot somebody or was he a victim? Why do you need to send him money? If he had a plane ticket then he has his way back. If they want to be paid, then the government must do it, especially if he is a crime victim. What is it that you are not telling?
Your sixth paragraph says it all. He cried in pain, he loves you, and doesn’t want to lose you and he wants you to stop blaming him when it’s not his fault. So how could you move out? Do you mean move out of the common home you live in together? Or move on from the relationship? I think that if you are not waiting and are not supportive, then it shows what kind of person you are. So what kind of person ARE you? If you distrust something about what he is saying, then get a copy of the police report directly from the police. Call them or email them or write them a letter asking for a copy of the public document that explains what happened. And send them the fee for it, and they will send it to you. Then you can see what is going on.
I would never give up on my gf if something happened to her. I would be on the first plane to UK if it was me.
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September 21st, 2011 at 1:36 pm
Sweetheart, I hate to be the bearer of bad tidings, but he was going to go from the beginning, and played with you then as he is now.
He has read you like a book, and one he can open and close when he wanted… scuse the pun, none intended.
And how do you know he’s not in a strip club as we speak?
He lied to you before didn’t he?
Message me if you wish, as I know what it’s like to be a fool for a man.
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