How do you deal with mood swings and temer tantrums at the age of 15?
My life has been extremley challenging the past 16 months. I received a surgery which now has me immobiled from the waist down. I cannot walk & will likely continue to be on bedrest for about another 16 months. My relationship with my parents was absolutely fantastic before and we rarely got into any arguements. When we did, it would be resolved within a few hours. Lately, especially the past two months, I’ve totally been losing my temper at the smallest of issues. My grandpa passed away. I have lots of mood swings – very happy one moment to having a very small issue tick me off and ruin my entire day. I cry a lot! I’m so overwhelmed with my life!! I get angry a lot & have so much frustration that I take out in ways that I realize hurts my family. I keep telling myself I have control all my emotions and this frustration but I just can’t seem to. I lose it at the many moments when I can’t imagine how I’ll possibly survive! I really don’t know how to deal with it! Any advice would help!!
I guess I’m wondering if my emotions are a combination of what teens go through at my age as well as my situation! What’s the best way to not let them interfere with daily life?
February 24th, 2011 at 7:36 pm
Well, assuming that you’re a girl because of your name, yeah i think its just a girl teenager thing. All of my 3 older sisters had this phase from age 14ish until university when they absolutely hated my parents. If you want to do something to fix it up though, either talk to them about it (if you have the courage to, lots of people don’t like bringing that up with their parents) or pick up a hobby like running to relieve stress
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February 24th, 2011 at 8:36 pm
Well it sounds like you have a lot to deal with for a 15 year old. So let’s take things on step at a time. One you are 15 and your body is changing. So a lot of things can happen when the body changes. Second, you had a recent loss in your life. You didn’t say if grandpa was someone close to you. However deaths can also make us feel very emotional at times. You are also dealing with being disabled and at 15. This means you want to do things and you know right now you can’t do anything at least until you get off of bedrest.
So yes, you have a lot of things going on with your life. However, I am hoping you have supportive family and friends. And if not, then maybe you can ask mom or dad to call someone like a counselor to come to the house to talk with you about your feelings. You could also contact the hospital where you had your surgery and ask to speak to a social worker about all these feelings. The thing is to get support and keep them.
If you begin to feel suicidal please call you local crisis hotline. They are usually open 24/7 and will listen and talk to you as well. And it is free.
Finally sit your parents down, and say, “I am feeling really bad right now about my life and everything in it. Please be patient with me. Please understand I have a lot of pain.” Open the door to commnication again. So when you do have a bad day they understand and I am sure will always love you.
Hope this helps…and God Bless You.
K
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February 24th, 2011 at 9:36 pm
Sounds as if your on the road to recovery already. Do you realize most people can’t or won’t identify problems their facing and here you’ve identified many reasons why your feeling the way you do. I’d say your well ahead of the game. As long as your able to realize and identify certain aspects of your life you deem unsuitable, you can then turn those negavtive things into positive ones. Most people can’t or won’t go to the lengths you have in sorting out their difficulties, so you my friend have a great advantage over the rest of us. I’ve been where you are, it’s no easy task dealing with the physical healing, let alone the mental part. Try to remember that this has put a strain on all persons in your family, taking into account the responsibility factor that most parents feel. It is not uncommon for parents to blame themselves for the situations their children face. You were able to articulate the problems your facing with the question you asked, noiw is the time to do so with your parents as well. Pour yourself out to them, like water in a glass,, empty your concerns to them, then let them step up to the plate, so they can participate in the healing process.
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February 24th, 2011 at 10:36 pm
Lol looking back at myself at the age of fifteen, the answer to your question is with great difficulty. I didn’t try to suppress them I actually revelled in them and it got me into a lot of trouble as a teen. I don’t know how but I suggest you might try some form of relaxation technique. I only saw myself at that age nothing else mattered, I was the centre of the universe, quite a little prick actually when I look back now. But I suppose if I had relaxed more and had had a few interests other than myself I may have been a better teenager.
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