How do I control my anger at my mother?
Things have gotten really bad I have gotten violent towards her and used filthy language I have also kept blaming her for this whole thing and telling her how hurt I am everytime I see fathers with their children and insulting her. I am still harbouring anger at her for my father abandoning me(because he had told her to get a abortion before hand,AND he said he wanted to be married when he had kids and him and my mom weren’t so I figure that she just shouldn’t have had me because I have been deprived of almost everything and have to work harder to stay a float than all my friends yes I know this is illogical since there isn’t anything she can do but I still keep feeling the way I feel). Everytime I look at her I just want to do something awful to her,and I don’t want to be like this anymore.
I am 21 but I have helped her in the past pay bills and do help out whenever I can financially,I also have helped her when it comes to doing other stuff like running errons etc.but point is I just don’t know what to do anymore. Should I at this point just try to leave the house?? She says that I need to get mental help and I agree that I do (I was diagnosed as emotionally disturbed as a child) but at the same time how do I control my anger with her in the mean time? It is going to take time I am sure… Yes I know that she is my “mom” and I know that assault is illegal and that I am wrong for doing what I have done I admit that. But its as if I just lose my mind I keep replaying the pain of being hurt by my father over and over again in my head then it overshadows all the positive things she has done for me than before I know it I’ve become overly emotional,bitter,angry,ungrateful,self absorbed,and negative. I just want to be a better person despite having to live in a roach infested apartment and not even having the love of my father who lives only a state away. So how do I control my anger at my mother?
@Lady you know who I think is a piece of sh*t? The pathetic cruel turd that beats someone that is already down I am obviously lashing out due to extensive pain than you decide to inflict more pain on me wow do you feel better about yourself now? you pig. you know f*ck you this makes me want to beat my mother to death now. everytime someone defends that b*tch i want to kill her. thanks to you my mom will get a bigger a** whooping my mother provided nothing welfare paid for me mostly. and you think thats good parenting? you suck.
@Lady also you don’t have a right to be so judgemental we’ve all made mistakes and my mom is a ho do you not think she disappointed her mom? my fathers dad is a crack head my mom has made huge mistakes in her life she incompetent you moron.
sorry my brothers dad is a crackhead.
@LADY Also how much more messed up than me are you? for bashing someone that is mentally ill you aren’t the one that is extra poor I am paying for my mothers mistake but thanks to you now she is gonna get a big a** whooping you have yourself to thank.
@strawber… she doesn’t care about me at all believe you me she doesn’t care she has emotionally abused me all my life.It isn’t as if my mother has never gotten violent with me because she HAS.
@Lady you are also really ignorant when someone has a chemical imbalence in their brain they are unable to think as clearly as a normal person I bet you’re a awful mom. You are completely heartless.

November 21st, 2011 at 8:36 pm
It is taking every ounce of my being to refrain from telling you what a complete piece of sh1t you are.
I honestly think that you are in dire need of counseling and anger management. Your mother is not to blame for a single thing that you have mentioned, and without help, I can only imagine how hurt she is inside for knowing what a huge disappointment you turned out to be. Leave your mother alone and get some help immediately.
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November 21st, 2011 at 9:36 pm
When you feel yourself getting angry take three deep breaths and count to ten then say you are making me angry!
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November 21st, 2011 at 10:35 pm
Why do you want to push your mom away too? You already don’t have a father, why push the parent that did care away?
Your 21, grow up. Get yourself in counsling and anger managment. It is not all your moms fault, quit being a whinny kid, stop replaying the pain.
I don’t really have a relationship with my dad but you would NEVER see me blame my mom for his shortcomings.
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November 21st, 2011 at 11:36 pm
Well, first, take a deep breath. try asking your mom for a vacation to your dad’s house. Or, call your dad and ask him for advice. Or, ignore her and spend more time with your friends.
I don’t really have a relationship with my dad but you would NEVER see me blame my mom for his shortcomings.
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November 22nd, 2011 at 12:36 am
seek counseling
I don’t really have a relationship with my dad but you would NEVER see me blame my mom for his shortcomings.
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