how can i control my anger better?
im 15 years old normally im good natured and can laugh at insults but occasionally when i feel things aren’t working out or if somoen acts in a @!%$@ way i get super ticked off and and end up grasping to control myself from wanting to beat him up reeeaaaaly badly luckily i havent lost control in around 6 years but ill crack eventually plus after i restrain myself i realy feel bad like tired and sick in the stomach by the way no meds and no counting to ten
i forgot to mention two things first of all i havehad this problem for as long as i can remember and dont think its teenage hormones second if anyone can tell me if i can stunt it since im not yet fully adult
i forgot to mention two things first of all i havehad this problem for as long as i can remember and dont think its teenage hormones second if anyone can tell me if i can stunt it since im not yet fully adult
i forgot to mention two things first of all i havehad this problem for as long as i can remember and dont think its teenage hormones second if anyone can tell me if i can stunt it since im not yet fully adult and its not aspergers i got checked for that already
August 4th, 2011 at 2:36 pm
it sounds like you’re bottling little things up until something big happens and all of that anger just spills out. you may not be noticing it b/c you don’t recognize these little problems as problems. pay closer attention to those things. deal with them right away, and when something big happens, you won’t get so mad.
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August 4th, 2011 at 6:36 pm
Twist your little finger and just walk away. If you get furious, you need to get it under control before you hurt someone and get sued or thrown into jail. Keep twisting your finger until you aren’t mad anymore.
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August 4th, 2011 at 11:36 pm
we all went pass this .. but one day ..he will go to far .. and you must stop when he say he beaten ok .. ..kick his ass
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August 5th, 2011 at 4:36 am
You are a teenager with raging hormones…you aren’t feeling much different than anyone else your age is. Just do your best to remain in control when you are angry. Walk away when you can…it sounds like you are conscious of it and that alone will help you maintain your cool. If you really start having issues with it – try talking to a behavioral therapist – they can help you work on the anger issues and triggers to stop them.
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August 5th, 2011 at 7:36 am
Good advice for everyone — teens to seniors — is in “The Anger in All of Us and How to Deal With It.” To order, send a business-size, self-addressed envelope, plus check or money order for $6 (U.S. funds only) to: Dear Abby, Anger Booklet, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, IL 61054-0447. (Postage is included.)
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August 5th, 2011 at 11:36 am
You might be holding back too much. If someone acts in a @!%$@, I think it is fine to call them on it. Not necessarily in an angry or confrontational way, but just simply saying, “hey, that’s not cool”. If you hold it in, you may eventually explode with anger. If the person you are dealing with is half way decent, they should realize what they are doing is wrong & not take offense to you calling them on it. Good luck.
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August 5th, 2011 at 3:36 pm
Maybe you have an illness. Asperger’s Syndrome has symptoms that are similar to that. The reason you feel sick in the stomach and tired is because your body can only handle 20 minutes of being “stressed”. Always allow yourself 20 minutes of alone time when you are mad and do something you enjoy (watching tv, playing video games, listening to music) This works every time and you can control yourself without meds this way. You need to talk to a doctor about your anger issues otherwise you could end up doing something stupid that you may regret.
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August 5th, 2011 at 6:36 pm
I too had an enormous rage. I broke things, hurt people, and mad life for people around me a hell. Counseling can do wonders. I’ll say that it seemed little things would make me blow up. I didn’t want to fight or argue with people when I’d been done wrong so I’d hold it in and not do anything until I’d drop a bite of food to the floor and snap like a bomb! Counseling has worked wonders. I learned to confront a person in a civil way when I felt they were taking advantage of me right then and there. A lot of times it was a misunderstanding and it would work out easily. My views on life has changed too. Hope this helps you.
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August 5th, 2011 at 10:36 pm
Don’t worry. Someone big like me will come along and smack the sh!t out of you to knock you down a few pegs. That will cure you.
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August 6th, 2011 at 2:36 am
Get involved in team sports and start exercising heavily to burn off some of that teenage energy. You’re full of hormones, and the endorphins that are released from heavy exercise will help to counteract the rage that comes from an excess of testosterone, and will help you feel more focused.
If that doesn’t work, find an anger management group…not as fun, and not as good for you.
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August 6th, 2011 at 7:35 am
My daughter was like that and I got her counseling and it worked.
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