Boyfriend might be going to Vegas for Bachelor Party….thoughts?
When I first started dating my boyfriend (two years ago) he told me that he HATED strippers so for some reason I thought that meant that he would never ever ever go to strip clubs no matter what. Well, he has been invited to Vegas for a friend’s Bachelor Party…a friend that he probably hasn’t seen or talked to in four years. But they’re all pals, they all fought together overseas and partied hard when they were stateside. So I understand the pull of wanting to hang out with good friends, but I can’t get it out of my head that he’s going to be in Vegas…”What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas”. Honestly, if they were having a hiking trip in Tennessee flying around on ATV’s I’d be pretty freakin happy, but there is sooo much sex in Vegas and the flaunting. It just sickens me that I won’t be the visual and possible physical stimulation that will be arousing him. Is that jealousy or insecurity?
I must also say that I am not allowed to hang out for a couple hours in my home alone with an old guy friend because my boyfriend doesn’t feel comfortable with that situation.
I don’t want to be the clingy girlfriend at all, I’m just not sure how to deal with how I feel.
Allie – he gets plenty of space hun…
I will say it once again…I WANT him to have a great time…I don’t WANT fricken strippers…I don’t care who is there to cause fantasies, I won’t be there to fulfill them.
And yes, I have seen both movies…great humor but never intend on watching them again.
I will add that the bachelor LOVES strip clubs…so I hardly doubt they’ll be throwing money away on gambling and yes, most of them are loaded.
August 8th, 2011 at 11:35 pm
I’ve got a thought…. Have you seen the movie The Hangover…
Canyon hiker .who used to live an hour or so from the S.Rim
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August 9th, 2011 at 5:45 am
Two movies come to mind.. The Hangover and What Happens in Vegas…
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August 9th, 2011 at 9:36 am
watch the hangover and see whats gonna happen :}
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August 9th, 2011 at 12:36 pm
I am a guy and I will tell you bachelor parties in Vegas are a bad idea.
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August 9th, 2011 at 3:36 pm
tell him how you feel about him going to vegas
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August 9th, 2011 at 5:36 pm
god give the man some space
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August 9th, 2011 at 7:36 pm
Honestly, just trust him, if he loves you then he loves you! if some girl is all over him just know that he isn’t going to do a damn thing about it! he is in a relationship with you and if he didn’t want to be with you then he would be!
its going to kill you keeping this to yourself when you feel this way, so maybe just cuddle up with him on the ocuch or bed or something and in a cute way just say that your a little jealous that some girl is going to be all over you and im not. don’t come on too strong and yell at him and say you don’t want him to go. just trust him, but calmly tell him how you feel and tell him that you trust him and that you love him..
but don’t get too serious, keep it a light conversation and joke around with him and just smile together, becuase hey.. its cute =)
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August 9th, 2011 at 10:36 pm
unless he is loaded.. he wont be having sex with strippers… that cost alot in vegas. Also.. a regular bachelor party they will go to strip clubs and get lap dances. Usually its the bachelor that gets the BEST treatment (whether he wants it or not). So know that 95% chance he will get a lap dance… are you cool with that. even if he says he wont… he will.. not even because he wants to but his buddies will all be making eachother get them. They will be going out to clubs and looking for a great time.. there will be LOTS of drinking and basically pressure to hook up and be crazy.
It depends on him and how well he can handle peer pressure!
The best you can do.. is say “i trust you will do the right thing and let him know that you love him.”
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August 10th, 2011 at 1:36 am
Your making me feel like going to Vegas!
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August 10th, 2011 at 4:36 am
I think you sit your man down and have a serious conversation with him. Be rational and don’t get upset, but let him know of your concerns about Vegas. Do you trust him? Still, let him know that you are not comfortable of the idea of him attending a bachelor party with just the guys, heavy boozing and lots of partying going on.
If you aren’t “allowed” to hang with an old male friend because of his insecurities, hopefully he can be understanding about his going to a bachelor party where there are much more temptations out there. If he is still adamant about going, and you are still not put at ease by this prospect, perhaps a compromise where you may also go to Vegas but just don’t attend the “outings” with the guys. But your man will return to the room you both are staying in after he goes out with the guys each night. I know it sounds a bit odd, but he might be a little more aware of his behaviors if he knows you’re around.
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August 10th, 2011 at 7:36 am
First off, if your boyfriend doesn’t feel “comfortable” with you hanging alone with another guy, then he must not trust you. Back when we were dating, I would have been perfectly fine with my girlfriend hanging alone with another guy because I trusted her. I trusted that she had good judgment and that she would not cheat on me.
Second, the issue of him going to Vegas is the same as the first. Do you trust him?
As I’m sure you know, trust and communication is a HUGE part of any relationship. Even if you completely trust him yet still are worried about him, communicate that to him. If he truly loves you he will listen and be understanding.
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August 10th, 2011 at 10:36 am
Tell him your not comfortable :]
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August 10th, 2011 at 1:35 pm
Ok pookie bear,
Lets deal with the first issue, he is going to vegas to see his friend whom he fought with in the war. Well unless you have been in harms way, you won’t understand how it feels to see a fellow brother in arms that made it back alive. They will be celebrating the fact that he made it back to married. Yes the some what bad part about it is the party is in Vegas. I will say this,the place is not full of strip clubs, it is full of casinos. There aren’t a bunch of women running around throwing themselves at every guy they see. I have be tdy (temporary duty) to vegas a few time and and had a nice time seeing the sites and enjoying the different musical and comedy shows Vegas has to offer. Vegas is not all hookers and strippers, besides that prostitution is illegal. I think you are just a little insecure because of the location. If he really respects you he will be a good boy because he doesn’t want to lose a good thing.
The other thing you mentioned was he doesn’t feel comfortable with you being alone with a guy friend in the house. That’s because it’s and old “guy friend” not a girl friend you used to hang out with. You have history with this person and that is what he isn’t cool with. He won’t have histroy with the girls at the party. I would suggest you express your feeling about the party in a rational manner, I am sure he will set your mind at ease.
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