What to do when your friend is being verbally abused?
I have a female friend who i’ve been cool with for a while. We are like good buddies. Recently she’s been seeing this dude and i think he’s verbally abusive to her which i don’t like. He acts a fool over the smallest things and he calls her names. She’s only been seeing this guy for about 4 months and i KNOW she can do better than this jerk! She says he’s only joking but are you joking if you call your girlfriend a stupid b–ch? Or a fat b–ch? I know this bothers her but she tries to act like it doesn’t. One time she was over his house and she cooked for him and washed the dishes and she told me he went off on her for using to much dish washing liquid and he called her a dumbass. Yet she seems to want to still see this nut and it really bothers me that she would let herself be abused like that. She is a nice looking girl and she is a little overweight and i think that’s why she thinks she has to settle for this scum. I want to slug this guy myself. Any suggestions on what to do here?
I have talked to her about my concerns and she just said she just doesn’t take his comments personally but i know her well, and i know the comments hurt her. I’m tellin you i’m on the verge of knocking this punk the f–k out cause i really don’t like him at all! But i don’t want to ruin my friendship with her over this idiot.

August 27th, 2010 at 8:38 am
Stay out… If she is smart, she’ll dump him!!!
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September 12th, 2010 at 8:36 am
Join in. verbal abuse is always funny.
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October 1st, 2010 at 9:43 am
Yeah YOU tell him to shut the fuck up or your gonna do somethin about it. I hate it myself when i hear about guys mistreating girls and abusing them. I’ve beat the shit outta three guys already for that shit.Hopefully he will stop but most dont, their just assholes
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October 24th, 2010 at 8:36 am
The only thing that you can do is be there to pick up the pieces when she does decide to ditch this loser. Also be there to listen if she wants to talk, but if you try to push her to ditch him she will most likely tell you to back off. So just stand really with a shovel and broom to sweep up the pieces when she is ready.
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November 14th, 2010 at 11:37 pm
ask your friend. if she needs help then help her out.
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December 3rd, 2010 at 3:36 pm
Have a talk with her. Ask her why she is putting up with this guy. When you talk to her don’t make any statements as to what you think or feel about what is happening to her. Let her tell you why she is putting up with him. As she tells you be empathetic and if she asks you for your opinion then give it but be careful you don’t put the guy down to begin with because you may hurt her feelings since she may look at him much differently than you.
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December 20th, 2010 at 3:36 pm
sounds like she has self esteem problems continue to be there for her remind her what a good catch and person she is. also tell her that lots of times verbal abuse will often lead to physical abuse. he sounds like a real ass i wish i could beat his punk ass my self
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January 4th, 2011 at 9:36 am
You’re right to be offended by the way this guy treats her. However, she’s the only who has to deal with him. Too bad that she accepts the verbal abuse. The words you mention are not to be taken lightly by her …. they offend her. Until SHE SEES THROUGH THIS, unfortunately, you cannot do anything.
Have you given her a hint? If you did and she ignores you, I’m afraid there’s nothing you can do. You and I know already that the situation will only worsen, so let’s hope it’s just a question of time before she dumps him.
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