My husband is a very dominating person. He thinks he is perfect…little does he know he’s not. He says so many little things to me that I feel is verbal abuse, but I just don’t know if it really is. Just yesterday I came home from work and changed into my lounge clothes and started dinner. He owns his own business so my job is to do invoices, bills, etc. I was also getting started on that. He came home from work and saw that I had my comfortable clothes on and said, “Why do you have those clothes on, the yard needs mowing!” So he acts mad and jumps on the lawn mower. Then while He was mowing the yard and I was working on paperwork (with papers spread out everywhere and papers on my lap), the phone rang and I couldn’t get up to answer it. When he came in from mowing, he saw that there was a missed call so he flew off and asked why I didn’t get up to answer the phone. I left a cup on the counter last night with water in it and the cat kocked it off and he few off again….cont
the cat knocked off the cup with water and he steped in the water. he flew off again because I left a cup there. (Which I should not have to remember to empty a cup…the cat should be out anyway but he won’t hear of that.)- He tells me all the time that he saved me…that I would be nothing if he hadnt married me. He constantly fusses about something….little picky things. I can’t stand it. I find myself just withdrawing from him and not fighting back. Then when I give him the cool treatment, he saying that I am a bad person and blah blah blah…
For those of you who think that I do not pull my weight….I work a full time job 8 -5. I come home cook dinner everynight. Meat and 3. I do his paper work. I do all the laundry. I clean the house I take off the trash. I do mow the lawn when I have time. I keep my own vehicle clean. I take him his dinner on a tray and fill his glass. He doesn’t respect me. But when I skip a beat, or don’t feel good, he has no sympathy. He thinks I’m trying to get out of something when I don’t feel good. He thinks no one works harder than him. Which is not true. He is just vain.
- Another thing. i wanted to paint the office a cheery yellow. He didn’t want it painted. He never wanted me to get the paint. So I begged till he got it. So, once I got ready to paint…he said for me not to paint a single wall until he was ready to help. He keeps putting me off. He got the paint to shut me up now he is controlling in me a new way by telling me I can’t paint it unless he is there. It’s like I can’t be my own person. So I still have white dull walls that I have to look at everyday while i do his work. – I never ask for anything, never. The paint meant alot to me, but, he is loving that he has that control that he doesn’t want me paintidng til he is there. He will never be there.