Am I wrong? or is HE?
Okay, so my husband grabbed his wallet and gave it to me and asked me to get something out of it.. I saw that he had a pic of us, in there, So i was like aaww how cute ya know. Then I saw the same picture under his credit cards, i thought that was weird so I pulled it out.. and right behind it was a picture of his ex girlfriend. I FAREAKED!! Shit flew!! So i did what every other wife would do, and asked him about it.. He swears it was there, i told him that i bought him a new wallet in decemeber and he took everything out taht he wanted and put in the new wallet.. he said he just grabbed his flip book (with all his insurance papers and important papers) and put it in there without looking at him. I am so pissed at him I can’t even talk to him or look at him or even sleep next to him. am I wrong?? Or should I say I am sorry? Plus we have been together for 2 years, married for one.
he says the pic was in his old wallet way before we got together.. and just never cleaned out his wallet…
plus i don’t know his ex.. i have just seen other pics of him and his ex in his photo album.. because it is okay to have memories put away.. just not in his wallet right underneath his wifes picture.
June 2nd, 2010 at 11:36 am
he’s wrong. what’s he doing with her pic at all? come on now.
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June 3rd, 2010 at 12:38 pm
You have every right to be pissed off !!!! You need to talk to him in a calm manner and let him know how that made you feel.
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June 4th, 2010 at 10:38 pm
he is worng… aks his ex secretly
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June 6th, 2010 at 3:36 pm
Is he sloppy in other things? if not divorce him, if he does not appreciate you as much as he should now, he will not in the future. Cut the looses before it is too late.
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June 8th, 2010 at 5:37 pm
bim
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June 11th, 2010 at 9:36 am
NO HES TE ONE WHOS WRONG you should talk to him about it
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June 13th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
His answer sounds logical Oh that’s right logic has nothing to do with relationships. I sorry disregard this answer.
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June 13th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
His answer sounds logical Oh that’s right logic has nothing to do with relationships. I sorry disregard this answer.
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Sorry so gross though !
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June 16th, 2010 at 12:36 am
Do you not trust him? When I changed wallets, I pulled all my cards out at once, not one at a time to see if theres trash. Give him a break. If it’s still in there now, after you have pointed it out to him, THEN you have an issue. He wouldn’t have allowed you to go through his wallet if he thought he had something to hide. If you can’t trust him after only one year of marriage, you will never make it to 5, much less 50.
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June 18th, 2010 at 12:37 pm
he married you on the rebound from her.
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June 21st, 2010 at 5:36 pm
As a wife, can you tell if he is lying? Did he truly act like he was coving? Do you trust him? I have to be honest here, I am worse than the absent minded professor. If what he did with transfering from one wallet to another, then I am guilty of the same. I had an old, old girlfriends phone number in my wallet for over three years. didn’t realize it till the day she got me a new wallet and I handed it to her to transfer the stuff and I even remember saying maybe get rid of any old stuff……we had a similar discussion. He should apologize for being so inconsiderate, as I did. If he known it was there, do you think he would have handed it to you and given you expressed permission to enter? Life is to short.
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June 25th, 2010 at 6:38 pm
Well, I’d be ticked off as well. But………… you have to consider that he really did just grab his ins cards, etc and just didn’t see it. It IS possible. I hope you guys work it out. I’m very sensitive to keeping things from your past. To me it means you’re not over it if you’re holding onto anything. Just my opinion. But it could have been an innocent oversight.
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June 30th, 2010 at 6:36 pm
Ask him to please remove it from his wallet and that this really bothers you….. Doe she still have feelings for her? I think you both need to work this out and move on!
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July 7th, 2010 at 5:38 am
I would say he is wrong because after 2 years of being together, he means to tell you that he never saw it in there? I don’t think so. I recetly found a pic of my husbands ex gf, but I do know that was an accident because it was in an old notebook he dug out after we moved to take to a class he had to go to for work. When I pulled it out and asked him about it he was like WTF and burned the picture. He had burned some when I first moved in with him too so I know that he had it by accident, but I was pissed at first because he souldnt be having that.
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July 15th, 2010 at 4:36 am
if that were me he would be sleeping at his mother’s
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July 25th, 2010 at 1:39 am
What an over reaction. It is, after all, only a picture. If you have that much distrust for him, than that doesn’t sound like a very good relationship.
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July 25th, 2010 at 1:39 am
What an over reaction. It is, after all, only a picture. If you have that much distrust for him, than that doesn’t sound like a very good relationship.
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August 5th, 2010 at 6:36 am
I don’t know that you need to say you’re sorry. I don’t see anything wrong with getting upset over him having that picture. But his story really sounds plausable. Heck, my own wife opened my wallet about four months ago, and lo and behold, there was a picture of my cousin that was about ten years old. She didn’t recognize my cousin (after all, ten years and two babies can do a lot to a person) and asked me. I’d been through at least two wallets in the last five years, so it must have just been grabbed with the myriad of cards, recipts, and other papers that accumulate in my wallet. She made me clean it, which was more than reasonable. She didn’t appologize, and I don’t see any reason for her to. She has every right to go through my walet and see what’s in there. On the other hand, I’d have considered it overreacting for her to stop sleeping with me over a picture in my wallet from ten years ago.
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August 19th, 2010 at 10:36 am
Give the guy the benefit of the doubt. Some people (self included) have a hard time throwing away photographs. Even if the photos are of blurry messed up images or of friends we no longer have any contact with.
It could also be that he did just grab the papers and stick them in the wallet without going thru them. I don’t clean out my wallet that often and will occasionally find things from two or three years ago.
Unless you have evidence that he has feelings for his ex besides this old photo, I’d just believe what he’s told you for the reason and leave it at that.
Married 8 years now
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September 5th, 2010 at 7:36 pm
well, there are a couple of reasosn, he asked you to take something out of his wallet. I think he knew it might be there. But it’s possible he didn’t know for sure. I some times have a hard time finding soemthing in mine, because it’s stuck to something else. . Give him another chance.
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September 26th, 2010 at 1:36 pm
I don’t think it is that huge, he obviously forgot to take it out, have him dispose of it, if he does let it go, if he doesn’t start asking some more questions.
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October 17th, 2010 at 12:37 am
well my girl says that you shuldent be so mad at him he mite be teling the truth but you shuld ask him to get rid of the picture. I say hes guilty cuz he looks in ther at least every day and who would want to see their eX every day
unless their were some feelings left over.
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November 1st, 2010 at 8:36 pm
I personally think it was an honest mistake. He just took everything out of one wallet, and put it in the new one without going through each piece. If he has otherwise been trustworthy, you have nothing to worry about. Give him a break….and some sugar! He made a mistake, by not checking closer is all.
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November 14th, 2010 at 2:36 pm
you have a right to be mad because he knew that it was in the old wallet so he should have been more careful when cleaning out the old one. he was supposed to have done the spring cleaning along time ago like when they broke up.
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November 24th, 2010 at 6:37 pm
Well you have to remember you are dealing with the male species. I believe that he forgot to take it out of his wallet, have you ever had a reason not to trust him? i think that you should say sorry. What if he is telling he truth, do you want to have this big blowout over nothing. And if he is lying to you believe me you will find out. Wait till it’s something not so little to flip like this.
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December 3rd, 2010 at 2:36 am
He is wrong,,,, give him a break,,, let him of the hook.,,, and let him know in no uncertain terms , that you really do not believe him, but you will give him another break, If you ever see another inappropriate picture in his wallet ever again!!! Oh the 2nd break will be a part of his body ,,,, pick somewhere that hurts,,,
Be nice,, really forgive him,,, do not torture him or anything or even bring it up,,but if it happens again,, time to go off!!!
my husband tried this very same bs,, when we got married, he had pics of his exes behind my framed pics,,, then when i told him to get rid of them or put them away he tried to hide them, i finally ripped them up and threw them all out, because he did not let me keep any pics of my ex,,,
1st rule to survive marriage,,,Be loving, be sweet, be about business, take care of home, keep yourself on point,,,and do not be stupid!!!!
married life been there done that, got the t-shirt (smiles)
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